While living in a family setting, we have to be a living example.
Our duty is not to find faults in others, and not to order others
around, but instead to help them to improve in a constructive and
positive manner. When we start seeing faults in others, those faults
are likely to come in us.
Causing distress to others, seeing faults and defects in others, and
following the path disapproved by the scriptures and saints, are not
easy to root out. However, this can be possible only by continuous
spiritual discipline and constant good company.
Just as we do not wish anyone to do us any wrong, or to find faults
in us or to behave badly with us; likewise, we should not find
faults in others or behave in an undesirable manner with others. A
pleasure seeking person always thinks of his own self, and his own
good. But a devotee of God, does not ever cause distress to others
with either his body, mind or speech.
Even though man may strive for discipline, but if he causes pain and
distress to others, then despite all efforts, he will not make quick
spiritual progress. Therefore, even if we do not care for others, we
should at least not cause distress to them.
It is very important to have no evil or bad thoughts and to do
nothing evil or bad against anyone. By assuming anyone as evil or
bad, we create a relationship with that evil and that evilness comes
in us. That bad thought does not let us become pure. Whatever
feeling is inside, so will be the outcome. God says He likes an
honest and simple person. If we keep seeing faults in others – we
cannot become simple and pure.
Do not see others faults. Accept what is good and reject all the
All faults stay in the shadow of egoism.
All faults arise due to sense of mine with the temporary worldly
things and desires. This is a rule. From just this one fault
alone, all other faults arise.
From Swami Ramsukhdasji’s writings – Miscellaneous
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