USED vs LOVED – E mail from Ashok


I read this short true story, wanted to share it with all my dear friends..

Please read it is meaningful,,,,,,,,


While a man was polishing his new car,

his 4 yr old son picked up a stone

and scratched lines on the side of the car.

In anger, the man took the child’s hand

and hit it many times not realizing

he was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers

due to multiple fractures.

When the child saw his father…..

with painful eyes he asked, ‘Dad when will my fingers grow back?’

The man was so hurt and speechless;

he went back to his car and kicked it a lot of times.

Devastated by his own actions……

sitting in front of that car he looked at the scratches;

the child had written ‘ I LOVE YOU DAD’.

The next day that man committed suicide. . .

Anger and Love have no limits;

choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely

life & remember this:

Things are to be used and people are to be loved.

The problem in today’s world is

that people are used while things are loved.

Let’s try always to keep this thought in mind:

Things are to be used,

People are to be loved.

Watch your thoughts; they become words.

Watch your words; they become actions.

Watch your actions; they become habits.

Watch your habits; they become character;

Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.



About dhavalrajgeera

Physician who is providing free service to the needy since 1971. Rajendra M. Trivedi, M.D. who is Yoga East Medical Advisor Graduated in 1968 from B. J. Medical College, Amadavad, India. Post Graduate training in Neurological Surgery from Charles University in Czechoslovakia. 1969 - 71. and received Czechoslovakian Government Scholarship. Completed training at the Cambridge Hospital and Harvard University in Psychiatry. Rajendra M. trivedi is an Attending Psychiatrist at Baldpate Hospital. He is the Medical Director of CCA and Pain Center in Stoneham, MA where he has been serving the community since 1971 as a Physician. OTHER AFFILIATIONS: Lifer of APA - American Psychiatrist Association Senior Physician and Volunteer with Massachusetts Medical Society and a Deligate of the Middlesex District. Patron member of AAPI - American Association of PHYSICIANS OF INDIA. LIFE MEMBER OF IMANE - Indian Medical Association of New England. Member of the Board of Advisors "SAHELI, Boston,MA. Dr. Trivedi is working closely with the Perkin's School for the Blind. Dr. Trivedi is a Life member and Honorary Volunteer for the Fund Raising Contact for North America of BPA - Blind People Association of Amadavad, India. Dr.Trivedi is the Medical Advisor for Yoga East since 1993. He is a Physician who started Health Screening and Consultation At Shri Dwarkami Clinic in Billerica, MA.

3 responses »

  1. Mr.B.G.Zaveri send E mail saying,

    Doctor Sir,

    I am moved by the story.
    I have sent the story to my daughter.The Parents have to understand the love of the child and the mind of the child.
    The child understand the love, but not the mind/mood of the parents.
    I do used to scold both of my children, but never strike them,no phycal abuse.
    It reminds me Mr. G.B. shaw.When asked ,by the Lady client that why his table was not decorated with the flowers.His reply was ” I do love the chidren too.but cannot decorate the table with their heads.” Though eccentric he was, he did understand the chid psycology.

    Just ‘ Vrajrapi kathorani, Mruduni kusumadapi’

    Best regards,

  2. ध्यायतो विषयां पुंस:संगस्तेषूपजायते,
    संगात्संजायते काम:कामात्क्रोधो अभिजायते ।।
    क्रोधाद्भवति सम्मोह: संमोहात्स्मृतिविभ्रम:
    स्मृति भ्रन्शात्बुद्धिनाशो बुद्धिनाशात्प्रणश्यति ।।
    क्रोधाग्नि पर प्रेम का पानी
    एक बार ज्ञानदेव महाराज को क्रोध आ गया तो उनकी बहन मुक्ताई ने कहा, “ताटी उघड़ा ज्ञानेश्वरा, ” (ज्ञानेश्वर महाराज, आप अपना अकड़ना कम कीजिए।
    उन्होंने कहा, यदि दुनिया आग-बबूला हो उठे तो संतों को चाहिए कि स्वयं पानी बन जायें।
    अग्नि को पानी बुझा देता है।
    अगर पानी में आग डाल दे तो क्या वह पानी को जला देगी या खुद बुझ जायेगी?
    संतों का स्वभाव भी ऐसा होना चाहिए।
    कोई कितना ही क्रोधित क्यों न हो, उन्हें शांत रहना चाहिए।

  3. Excellent.
    “Sant Asant Ke Asi Karani, Jimi Kuthaar Chandan Aacharni” Saintly people bless even those who hurt them.

    Ever noticed how hard it is to build Character, which is everything. Someone said “If you lost wealth you lost nothing, if you lost health you lost something, if you lost character you lost everything.”

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